"I hate how the phrase 'have some self-respect' is used to shame women who are comfortable with their sex lives. 'Have some self-respect?' I do respect myself; that's why I wanna have a fucking orgasm tonight, thank you very much."
"Jada (Pinkett-Smith) unchained her daughter. Our mothers, grandmas, and aunties taught us to draw as little attention to ourselves as possible as we make our way through the world--or if we should be noticed, make it only for our exceptional achievements. Too many of us were taught that Willow's style and demeanor are for White people; 'we' don't behave that way. But personal freedom isn't just for White girls. Every little colored girl deserves a chance to grow into the woman she longs to be. I could not be happier that preteens today who look like me now have Willow."
"Fyi, for me, 'ho tapes' are the internal voice that black women hear when they are debating whether or not to engage in a sexual act. Often times, the politics of respectability play a role, and I theorize that often our 'ho tapes' stop us from experiencing pleasure, or they allow us to center the pleasure of another while making our own secondary."
