"I’m so sick of people with privilege hiding behind their intent or ignorance when they are caught having to explain their racist, sexist, homophobic, xenophobic, transphobic or ableist remarks. Your intent or ignorance is not transmitted or communicated to the people you are talking to or referring to, so using that as your crutch is not a viable defense." --a New Black Woman

 I would like to expand this to denounce intent as a defense against hurtful remarks in general. You didn't mean to hurt/anger/upset me. Oh, that's cute, but it doesn't do a damned thing--it certainly doesn't erase my hurt/anger/upset-ness. If it does anything, it makes me more hurt/angry/upset because now you're telling me my feelings are invalid. So next time you want to say you "didn't mean to"...don't.